What is One-to-One Mentoring?
In its truest form, mentoring is a co-creation between the mentor, who could be anyone of skill, experience and wisdom, and the mentee, the one seeking to learn, grow and evolve. Even though the dictionary defines mentoring only as an elder helping a younger student, there are many ways to mentor. Mentoring is an individual mentorship of mentor and mentee sailing toward a future relationship woven of commitment, respect, trust, honor, kindness, humor, affection, appreciation, gratitude and joy.
The co-creation of the fullness of mentoring may feel like a friendship however the ship of mentoring travels into deeper levels of knowing someone. It is not counseling, psychiatry or psychotherapy, as it is never co-dependence. Mentoring gives space and freedom for the mentee to grow into compassionate independence, strength, courage and creativity from their own nature, instincts and knowing wisdom.
Mentoring is a bond held in boundaries of honor and respect for the sacred trust of committed responsibility to guide another human being toward their highest potential by someone they trust. During the process mentor models a healthy honoring relationship so that the mentee never experiences being taken advantage or obligated in codependence.
Yes, the mentor instructs, guides and supports, however the mentee also participates in partnership to overcoming resistance, fear of seeking, imagining the mentor’s feelings or actions rather than asking questions, and most of all putting guidance into action with ever increasing skills of communication.
As the mentee evolves to higher levels of wisdom, knowledge and harmonious understanding they move beyond cultural memes, isms, polarities and agendas toward their unique resonance of life purpose. Eventually the ease of trust results in a richness of life skills that improves all relationships to self, nature, family, friends, community and life itself.